This morning I’m preparing to write two cards. One card to congratulate a family member on their recent wedding. One to a dear friend who just lost her 26 year old son. One card is bright and sparkly with a silk bow and bold silver and gold lettering. The other has subdued grays and blues and a smaller, cursive font. In one card, I’m sending wishes for a long future together, filled with love, laughter, and eternal happiness. In the other, I’m urging my friend to take life one day (sometimes one minute) at a time, and to have strength, hold onto memories, lean on the people she knows and loves. Life is complicated. I don’t know what else to say. I can’t find the words.